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Nitro1515 · Unread post by **Nitro1515** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 2:19 am

So everyone is asking so Ill address the crazy guy walking on stage incident first. I really dont know the whole story but I can tell you all what I know so far. Our security told me after the show that the crazy guy was wondering around the arena yelling and screaming about nothing that made any sense. He was really bugging people so the police went to get him and remove him but they could not find him. That is when I turned around at the end of Intro and saw this crazy looking dude in a trench coat walking toward me and staring at Dave. Before I knew what was happening our personal security and drum tech was man handling this guy down the stairs. I guess this guy had no ID and was not the most informative with the police. It really freaked us all out and was not the type of ending to a great year that we would have expected. Im curious if he went to jail and what his deal was but I think that he climbed up the back of the stage, through the back wall, and through my amp and Carters drum raiser. This was not your normal stage rusher. This whole thing still has me a bit freaked.

One great thing about our fans is the way they network between each other and organize such sites as nancies.org and antsmarching.org, which help connect a lot of people who are fans of ours. Now we all know that sometimes the negative comments on the boards seem to overpower the intention of discussions and debates that our fans love to engage in, and because of this, I do not visit these sites. However, I love the fact that my myspace site has become in its own right a forum for fans who are positive and want to be heard by someone in the band. I believe that because of all the positive suggestions through this site we have played some songs that frankly we might have just forgotten to pull out this summer. So this guy Jared e-mailed me through my site about how we should have rehearsed for those couple of days that we had off so we could play new songs for the final show, and how we should have done this, and done that, and how he'll never travel to our show outside his town again. I respect his opinion, but he really should have kept his comments to the boards that are used to this type of negative comments. I have had a slew of e-mails telling me about his post on antsmarching and how much they disagree and think that this guy is a jerk. I only bring this up in a blog because I am wiped out after these 2 hometown shows and felt that I gave 100% and to be judged as if he was the Duke of Live Shows and knows what it takes to put one on was unproductive and down right disrespectful to me and the rest of the band. This is all I will say about this but I just wanted to put it out there since he felt it so necessary to give me such a harsh reaction to his experience in such a personal manner.

Okay, I want to return to the good vibes that Ive felt all summer and thank every one of you for supporting us and coming to enjoy us enjoying what we love to do. In the words of Dave Matthews, "I just love playing this one because it makes me feel so good!" Thats why we play our music, it just makes us feel so good!

Peace out and find your groove,
Stefan

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GSR · Unread post by **GSR** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 2:24 am

Thanks G.

Nitro1515 · Unread post by **Nitro1515** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 2:26 am

The email in question:

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It was 5:00 a.m. on Friday morning and my alarm was blaring at full volume. What makes this rather unusual is that I had taken that Friday off from work, and typically when I have the day off you won’t see me out of bed until at least 10:30 a.m.

I was waking up at 5:00 a.m. because Friday was a day that my wife and I had planned since last winter. We had made plans to take a 6 and a half hour drive down to Charlottesville VA, to see my favorite band play the last two shows of their summer tour, in a new venue, in their hometown. And a 6 ½ hour drive is nothing compared to what many others had to do to get to that show. Just in the parking lot alone we met people from Michigan, California, Tennessee, Florida, New Mexico, Montana, Missouri, Illinois, Canada and the UK.

Why would many of these people spend all of that money on tickets, travel, food, drink, and hotel accommodations, to see a band that in most case probably had just a played a show or two within the last 3 months within a few hours from their hometown? And in most cases why would they do this to see a band that they have already seen at least 10, 20, or even 30 times before.

The answer is that because DMB shows are like crack to some of us. The energy, the atmosphere and the musicianship is unlike anything we have ever seen from any other band. We feed off from it. That feeling is something that is indescribable.

The reality is that most of us are not millionaires. We are hard workers. If we could we would fly to every show that we had time for. Life would be one big party and that would be an amazing life to live. The problem is that many of us don’t have that option. In order to keep that same old feeling going with DMB, we have to take risks with the shows that we travel for. We stake out the tour dates the day the day they come out and than choose a plan of attack. The question that we ask is “Which shows are going to be special”?

We look at alpine, the gorge, SPAC, MSG, Red Rocks etc, and look at past tour stats with the hope of history repeating itself, and with the hopes that if we go to these shows that we are going to get something different than we would in our hometown. At this point, for most of us, we have seen just about your entire catalog with maybe a handful of songs missing here and there. The venues listed above have a reputation for playing rarities that some DMB veterans haven’t had the chance of seeing. And we stake out certain venues with the hopes that if history is any indication of the future that we might end up seeing something new to us such as a Sweet Up and Down, Halloween, Blue water, I’ll back you up, Spoon, Busted Stuff etc… The reality is that, we love DMB music, but in order to keep the drug going, we need to keep it exciting.

Charlottesville VA was a no brainer when it was announced at the beginning of this tour… So we immediately booked our hotels, plane flights, asked for time off, and started saving our cash because it looked like these were going to be the shows of the year. And lets be real, there is always shows of the year. Some shows are better than others are there are always standouts that set themselves apart from the pack. If there wasn’t, there wouldn’t be die hard fans that would follow DMB like the Grateful Dead.

The unfortunate part for me, along with the thousands of others who traveled to be here, I don’t believe that many of us were happy with the shows that we got. And I don’t feel like a prick for saying this, because you can’t make everyone happy all the time. And I am sure that there were probably more people that were pleased with those shows, than there are people like me.

What makes this so tragic is that it didn’t have to be that way. The musicianship was great, the showmanship was amazing, and you guys put on one hell of a performance, as usual. All it would have taken, to make that diehard fan happy, that guy who flew from California to see his 36th show, was if you took the time to practice one or two songs that you hadn’t played yet this tour.

With the seven days that you had off before C’ville, you could have taken a few hours and said, “you know what, people are really hyped up for these shows lets relearn blue water or “people people” so that the people who spent upwards of a thousand dollars to see us this weekend go home happy!” Really, that is probably all it would have taken. You guys can put Halloween in just about any set list at this point some diehard fans will argue that you put on the show of the century.

I don’t need to tell you this, you have been touring for over a decade. You know how this works. I am just baffled that IMO, little or no effort was put in to satisfy the Diehard fan. The radio fan left with all the singles that they would ever have wanted to hear, and that was probably their first and last DMB experience. The diehard fan left with confusion, and a long trip home.

Last night was my 20th show, and I don’t want to say it was my last… But it will be the last one that I travel for. I don’t have enough money to spend 500 plus on a weekend and go home and feeling bummed out. If 10 minutes of one of the two shows had been different, this could have been avoided,

To be honest, I am not sure if you will read this, or if you will just pass me off as a disgruntle fan. Either way I had to get this off my chest. This band has been a huge part of the last 6 years of my life and this will hopefully bring some closure to my feelings of disappointment.


Take care,

With much love and respect,

Jared

GSR · Unread post by **GSR** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 2:36 am

Huh. I agree/see what he's saying for the most part, but asking for Blue Water or People People is a bit much.

Nitro1515 · Unread post by **Nitro1515** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 2:40 am

GSR wrote:Huh. I agree/see what he's saying for the most part, but asking for Blue Water or People People is a bit much.

For sure. I just think its kinda funny how in that other interview Stefan is talking about how the rarities brought the fans out this year and now he is scolding this kid for asking for some rarities to come back, albeit asking for People, People is just idiotic.

pjdk28 · Unread post by **pjdk28** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 2:50 am

just looking at the setlist...its not all that bad. we all certianly sympathize, but maybe jared needs to be a little fairer to the band: they dont keep track of rare tracks like we do. besides, all in all, i thought the tour was a pretty good mix, with plenty of surprises. randalls island was crazy

a1075dd63aa12 · Unread post by **a1075dd63aa12** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 10:27 am

yea wtf, i completely agree with the dude who wrote the letter. there wasnt a harsh tone to the letter, and ive argued this point before. this is one of my main gripes with the band as of late, they really dont care what the fans want to hear and they definitely show preferential treatment to a handful of venues.

mattinbeloit · Unread post by **mattinbeloit** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 10:28 am

What a douche, Stefan probably dosn't even know what Blue Water is you idiot. I'll never understand people like that. I could care less what they play, I always have a great time. If you are spending $1000 it's one of those "Enter at your own risk" things. They think they are entitled to something more because they decided to spend a shit load of money, and that's not true. Buy a fuck load of loto tickets, it will probably make you happier....

a1075dd63aa12 · Unread post by **a1075dd63aa12** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 10:35 am

mattinbeloit wrote:What a douche, Stefan probably dosn't even know what Blue Water is you idiot. I'll never understand people like that. I could care less what they play, I always have a great time. If you are spending $1000 it's one of those "Enter at your own risk" things. They think they are entitled to something more because they decided to spend a shit load of money, and that's not true. Buy a fuck load of loto tickets, it will probably make you happier....

you missed the point entirely. he never asked for a specific song, the point was, that the band had 7 days off before charlottesville, they could have taken an hour to two hours to work on anything that hadnt been played on this tour and came up with 2-3 songs that hadnt been played. stefan knows as much as anybody want songs the band wants to hear, hell they are all over his myspace page, between the stupid pictures and the blatant cocksucking. his argument is that the band didnt care enough to do that.

littlefriend · Unread post by **littlefriend** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 11:00 am

I didn't think that was very negative at all. It conveyed the guy's disappointment very well, and that's it. Maybe it just struck a little too close to home for Stefan's liking. And I'm pretty sure the guy was just using those two songs to make a point, not as specific requests. No one really expects People, People. Ever.

sunglassesatnight · Unread post by **sunglassesatnight** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 11:11 am

I pretty much agree with the guy, while I think he wasted his breath just to get flamed by unwaivering dmb fluffers. It's not like he said anything that hasn't been said many times beforehand.

Littlefriend is right, there's no reason to get mad over that note as a member of the band unless you know the whole deal was bunk to begin with.

Lbacker · Unread post by **Lbacker** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 12:23 pm

GSR wrote:Huh. I agree/see what he's saying for the most part, but asking for Blue Water or People People is a bit much.

jsgksu · Unread post by **jsgksu** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 12:32 pm

Lbacker wrote:
GSR wrote:Huh. I agree/see what he's saying for the most part, but asking for Blue Water or People People is a bit much.

wkpggrvn2001 wrote:you missed the point entirely. he never asked for a specific song, the point was, that the band had 7 days off before charlottesville, they could have taken an hour to two hours to work on anything that hadnt been played on this tour and came up with 2-3 songs that hadnt been played.

littlefriend420 wrote:And I'm pretty sure the guy was just using those two songs to make a point, not as specific requests. No one really expects People, People. Ever.

GSR · Unread post by **GSR** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 12:35 pm

I'm surprised so many are supporting Jared. I expected everyone to bitch about fans being too hardcore and that the band can do what they want.

huff · Unread post by **huff** » Mon Sep 25, 2006 12:57 pm

GSR wrote:I'm surprised so many are supporting Jared. I expected everyone to bitch about fans being too hardcore and that the band can do what they want.

i think the band can do whatever the hell they want. i dont understand how this guy thinks they should have practiced on their break.

that is kind of like someone bitching at him because he didnt practice while he was on a break and forgot to put the new cover sheet on his tps report

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